How many times have you faced a situation where the other person cuts the cord between you two and simply doesn’t give a proper and legit reason? How many times have you cut the cord and didn’t clarify the reason?
I’ve been in this situation quite a lot and on both ends, and to be frank, it hurts either way. There’s this saying that I’ve told myself way too many time – and I still do- which is that things without closure are always the most painful. Let’s say you met this amazing person that gave you new hope in love, and he/she seemed beyond perfect and made the rest look like complete crap. You went on a few dates together, and everything was going very well. Great communication, great understanding, mutual respect, and the rest of the drill. Then all of a sudden, the conversations cool down and become shorter. You contemplate possible causes, but there isn’t anything! So you’re basically left in a state of confusion and loss. After all of that, that too-good-to-be-true person starts to explain, saying that life happened, and he/she is just not ready for the next level. Now, I know what you’re thinking: this is okay, it makes perfect sense. But – and this is a huge but- you’ve made it crystal clear over and over again that you were fine with waiting for the official thing. And with that, you’re left with a huge question mark holding you down all the time. Ever since that encounter, you haven’t spoken a word to that somebody, and even after all that deep connection.
On the other hand, this is something we do sometimes to others as well. We’re just as bad as the people we complain about! Oh the hypocrisy. In this case, you might be close to someone, yet they’re getting the wrong idea, thinking that you have feelings for them or something, which you obviously don’t. What do you do? Ah yes, you come up with some bogus lie just to save your ass. It almost always works without them hating your guts.
My point is that honesty is the best policy especially in these cases. You don’t want people to go through something you don’t want to go through yourself, right? It all goes back to the concept of treating people the way you want to be treated, and it kind of reflects Karma. Think of that the next time you want to bail out or want an explanation: be truthful and spill the beans! (you know you want to)